Okay. I think I can guess what happened, now. You guys haven't known each other very long, and I take it you've only really run into each other when the shit's hit the fan - Felfri, the Red Fog. So, this person sees you at a time when the peninsula isn't going to hell, for once, and he probably figured teaching you something might be a good way to get to know you.
You're a pretty practical guy, really straightforward. So I can understand why you would have brought up the Red Fog - it's one of the last times you saw him, and you can connect to that, it's common ground. Whatever you said, you wouldn't have thought anything of it, because you were just making conversation.
Thing is: not everyone likes having bad things brought up when they're trying to have a good time. Especially if he's new: it probably really fucked with his head, and he wants to get past it and get on with his life. Which isn't to say you can't ever talk to anyone about the shit that happens here! It just means that sometimes if you want to, if you don't know them very well, you should ask them first if they're cool with it.
Once you've known someone a while, you start to learn when they're in a mood to talk about the rough stuff, and when you should wait until later, and you won't have to ask anymore. But if you do still want to be friends with this guy, it can be as easy as sending him a note.
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Date: 2023-01-16 12:55 am (UTC)You're a pretty practical guy, really straightforward. So I can understand why you would have brought up the Red Fog - it's one of the last times you saw him, and you can connect to that, it's common ground. Whatever you said, you wouldn't have thought anything of it, because you were just making conversation.
Thing is: not everyone likes having bad things brought up when they're trying to have a good time. Especially if he's new: it probably really fucked with his head, and he wants to get past it and get on with his life. Which isn't to say you can't ever talk to anyone about the shit that happens here! It just means that sometimes if you want to, if you don't know them very well, you should ask them first if they're cool with it.
Once you've known someone a while, you start to learn when they're in a mood to talk about the rough stuff, and when you should wait until later, and you won't have to ask anymore. But if you do still want to be friends with this guy, it can be as easy as sending him a note.